My ex was an elder and the calls from disgruntled flock members were unending. Where people gather, there will always be bickering.....and the bickering within the fold were NOT few and far between....it was constant like the monotonous dripping of a leaking tap. I also think that the elders, though they meant well, were not equipped to deal with some of the deeper emotional and mental reasons that caused the taps to leak. They think that if they did all things the bible's way it would be alright...WRONG! Some screwed up nut cases didn't get the attention they craved and some really worth while individuals were overlooked or were counselled.
Girl, focus on the things in your life that are positive and that bring you joy. You have turbulent times (ie. hubby) ahead of you and you are going to need to surround yourself with the positives rather then the negatives. I know that when we have been wronged we hold on to it for a long time....but it is not constructive thinking and it only steals from us valuable time we could be spending with those we love and who love us back. Make the ones you love your priority number 1 and those whom you despise, as you clearly do, your priority number zillionith. You NEED the number 1 people, you don't need the number zillionith crowd. Capture the goodness that surrounds you and save it up Snoozy...believe me...one day you will wish you did.
Edited by - Beck_Melbourne on 12 October 2002 21:18:53