ok ladies,
has there been any documented studies on the role religion or society plays in keeping women in an economical and social disadvantaged state ?
Im wondering how many other women out there in the world, who either being raised or being long term followers of a strict religious faith,with traditional family structures, have upon either divorce or death of a spouse find it nearly impossible to find a mate or economic stability , and live out the remainder of their lives struggling and either bouncing from one guy to another, being disappointed or used, or simply alone.
I have personally felt, that I, being a xjw and now divorced woman , with no ‘acceptable’ work skills,[ ie: fancy resume with degrees] living of low wage part time work and barely any alimony , will simply be viewed as someone trying to get another man to support her.
wanting to have a marriage mate, is more for the reasons of love and companionship and family, belonging, not simply for the reason of having a home and support.
I see many profiles of men on dating sites, where they have the statement
“ she should be an independent career minded woman who knows what she wants”
to mean little more to me than ‘ have your own job and money‘ they are not looking to be married.
many are up front in saying they want just to date or have sex or short/long term relationships.
men who are over 45 typically are homeowners, and have good paying jobs, relative security in a company, and college degrees, they simply do not NEED a woman for any other reason than sex. And for many women who are quite independent , that also would be the case.
I have found with the two men i dated, that they have trouble finding things to talk about, they have basically lived their lives, raised kids, worked, did all the globetrotting, the vacation fun stuff, more or less, you see all the photos of their vacations ect, reaching retirement, and now they cannot express what exactly it is that they want, In fact having so little to say of any meaning. they often have been living alone for years, are addicted to tv, or work, [have an established weekly ‘schedule’, they wont deviate from even to date,] and so the typical housewife duties are not needed from a woman. i found
both of them saying the same line to me,
‘ Im looking for honesty, companionship, and commitment”
while not providing that themselves for the woman they date! .
going through how many, looking for what, I think they do not know.
the assumption, that women like myself, who left a loveless marriage, and has lost most of her material assets, pets, extended family members, now struggles to pay bills in a tiny apartment, are not viewed as ‘good loving mates‘ but taking on someones OLD BURDENS. so far Ive not been given the chance to show what sort of person I am. they see my situation a it is now and draw a conclusion in their minds as to my motive.
this mentality, is damaging to women in general. for I have always felt that way in my marriage for the past 35 years. that i was just another chore, that had to be dealt with.
which seems more likely, society, or religion, or both? that has forced these social troubles on us?
just curious, is it me, or everyone else, lol am I doing it all wrong?