DB Hoe

by teenyuck 12 Replies latest jw friends

  • BeautifulGarbage

    Hi Tina,

    I believe I understand your feelings about being caught in the middle and feeling pressure to choose sides. I just FLAT refuse to do it, period. If that angers both sides, so be it! I'm done with that shit!

    I remember when I was nine and my parents were splitting after a particularly nasty row. I had been gone spending the day with my JW cousins. I come home to my Mom, crying, holding ice, wrapped in cloth, on her face and my Dad packing to leave. I can't remember my reaction, if I had any at all. What I DO remember, is my parents asking me who I wanted to live with. Of course, if I chose one, I rejected the other. I felt like I had the whole world on my shoulders. I COULDN'T CHOOSE. After a long pause, I just burst out crying. My Mom was closest to me, so I just threw myself on her. Not because I chose her, but because I felt such despair. However, they both took it as if I had chosen my Mom. As long as I live, I will never forget the hurt look on my Dad's face.

    When I look back now, unfortunately for me, their separation was a short one.

    This discussion board has helped me in many ways. It has a place in my life right now. Some day that may end. I don't know. I step into it for brief periods to learn, vent, and support. And I hopefully, laugh a bit too. I step out of it and pursue those things I find meaningful (and some of things not so meaningful) in my "real" life.

    I think what else that is frustrating is that negative labels are put on people by those that have absolutely NO IDEA what is going on in the lives of those they are labeling. If a few people have decided that they have become mortal enemies on these board, then duke it out with each other and whoever else wants to get involved. If I decided I want to be involved I will. But, most likely, I won't. Discussion board battles of personalities is not something that is of vital importance to me. I would much rather read a book to my son, thankyouverymuch.

    Anyway, I do hope you still post here. I always liked Puffsrule and hope that she isn't completely discarded.


  • professor

    always loved your posts, puffy

    I think its incredible that some posters got mad that they couldn't drag us down (or off) with them. Screw them. You have the right idea. Go with that and be happy!


  • jack2

    Puffs, I'm sorry about all that happened in the past and I support you in your decision not to take sides. I choose to do the same.

    There's a situation going on in my family now that involves some division and confrontation, and I too refuse to take sides. I will not elaborate, but let's just say that I can to some small degree to relate to what you have written.

    Andee, well said indeed and also you have my sympathy for what you have had to deal with.

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