Just read the posts about dissassociating. Wondering what the advantages/disadvantages are.
I myself had my meeting attendance drop about 1989. During this time, I found the truth about JWs through books like those of Raymond Franz and never went back. Aside from my father trying to coax me back in, no other JW (elder or otherwise) has ever brought up the subject or hunted me down to make a decision. Though I have heard of this happening in the case of a friend who dissappeared and ended up living with his girlfriend. So until you commit a DF offense, maybe they don't track you down.
To me, the advantage of not doing anything is that I get to see my family members that are still in it and not have them reject me. As for making it official to the congregations I associated with, I could care less about clarifying things officially. Let 'em keep guessing. If I were to make it official, I can pretty much guarantee there will be a change in attitude towards me, both from my family and from old friends I know. I know it's ridiculous. I'm the same person either way (opposed, never going back), but it's that official statement of position that will drive them away from me.
The advantage of disassociation is what? I don't feel like I'm part of them. I mostly feel free to do as I please without worrying about their judgement (of course living in another state where they don't know me helps). The only exception being when I'm around JW relatives or JWs (not that often). I don't talk about birthday parties or Christmas, etc.
Dissassocating myself seems like being required to fill out a service record card. It's more official paperwork for the JWs. I'm pretty sure God can read my heart and doesn't need to go into the Watchtower Society's records to see where I stand (or don't stand) with them.
Don't know what the current treatment of DA people are. Is it still like a DF person? When I was a JW, I always thought of them as worse. They didn't just do something bad out of weakness, they rejected the entire religion and are gone for good. I'm thinking people will view me worse. Now I'm just irregular (VERY irregular), but they have no reason to reject me.
So what's the point? Why would anyone DA themselves and lose at least the polite hellos from old friends and family?