Hehe-what a coincidence that you should post this question the day after my first wild post-Borg weekend lol.I was pretty uninhibited and well educated before I was a JW,so when I was baptised I had to reign myself in quite a bit(even wrote Bethel on a few issues when I was studying-interestingly got a different answer than what was printed in the Watchtower on the oral sex issue.Alas, I didn't keep the letter).I'm still in my "Whoopie,I'm Free!" stage,so don't know how much I'll settle down.I was baptised when I was a teen,so I don't really know what my personal views are as of yet, other than to say they are definitely NOT of the Borg mentality! I sure am enjoying exploring the issue though:)
I think sexual views are a combination of genetics and upbringing.I have very, ahem,sexually active non JW parents.My upbringing was pretty liberal,with healthy boundaries set(no incest,make sure you're sexually responsible,etc.).I was allowed access to their books on pregnancy and birth when I was quite young,and as a young adult,I was allowed to read books on sexuality(not porn,although I did know where it was hidden and snuck a look at this too).I think this made me more sexually responsible,not less(nothing like a flowery description of STDs to make one aware of the importance of safety).I think because of this, I always had a hard time with the Borg definition of marital sex.I could never get what they meant about "not throwing off all restraint in marriage".
In contrast,I've had several friends who were raised with a different ideology of sexuality.This caused them no end of problems later in life when their perceived view of sexuality and their biological urges just didn't match up.
The most heartbreaking are my friends who had their joy of sexuality totally obliterated by perverts who sexually molested them when they were children.Seeing the indelible marks left on these poor victims entire lives has made me extremely intolerant of molesters!
