I think your and my mom are somehow related. Your comment about how she said you were fat and would never get a man was so close to what I had to go through in high school. Starting at about 11 I started to get very chubby, which my mom couldnt stand, and she would take great joy in make me feel like a fat slob. When I was 13 my mom decided she wanted a family portrait and that we would all wear jeans. Well since I was so chubby she was always saying that she couldnt find me any clothes (she couldnt because she always dragged me to the teen shop which never had anything for chubby girls) and she made me wear some of her old jeans (size 15) and later would brag to people that she was smaller than her 13 year old daughter (she was size 13).
It's not the worst thing she has ever done, but my sister and I feel that she lost interest in us when we got to be pre-teens and when we were teenagers she was down-right hostile and loved to try to play all of us against each other. It's amazing that my siblings and I even talk today because she still tries to play those games, all the while spouting how we need to be closer as a family.
P.S. She has told me that if my hubby loved me he would tell me to lose weight.