In the early 90's, when I was a regular pioneer, another pioneer invited me along on a call she had with a young minister, from the Lutheran church. He was really sharp!! He asked if we could get him copies of some WT articles, and gave us a list of specific magazines and page numbers, and paragraphs too. We agreed, thinking he was really interested. When I went home and looked them up, I was shocked by what it was. There in front of my face, were all the stupid 'adjustments' they had made in their teachings about 1914. I showed it all to my elder husband (who was doing his own private research, and to another elder I respected, who was ALSO researching) and they both told me to read the articles and make my own decisions. When we went back to see the minister, we told him we couldn't find the articles, but we did have several more good discussions, but eventually stopped going, because we were too much in denial. I think about looking him up and telling him he started my exit process. By the way, my husband and the other elder I mentioned are both EX JW's now.
Just a thought.........you might try the same with your ladies.
Marilyn (aka Mulan)
"No one can take advantage of you, without your permission." Ann Landers