It is killing me now that I am awake, having kids in school and having to be JWs. Birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving, having to go home or be left out because their teachers know they are witnesses and/or have kids from the school in their class or grade. It's a small town so the other JWs in the hall know what's going on since their kids are in the same school. We are talking elementary age. I just want to get OUT and tell my kids it's okay do it all! Any of you in this situation, what do you do, grin and bare it? I feel so bad for my kids, because I know it's pointless.
Im slowly Working on my husband. He says he won't do anything the FDS says that doesn't have scriptural merit (like go run for the hills or sell your belongings) and that we don't fit in Jw land because we do whats best for us. Miss meetings for work, sick kids, push higher ED, and allow our young kids in sports. He doesn't agree with how they make rules about trivial things, but says they have had to because men love laws and rules, not principle choices. We don't think birthdays are bad, or saying happy holiday, thanksgiving birthday etc, and he thinks witnesses are selfish and have social issues. He said he recently feels his frame of mind has become apathetic due to the truth and he hates it. He agrees they teach out of guilt and fear. He says there has to be some organization structure to accomplish the preaching work. Thus the society is needed. I have talked about molestaton-disfellowshipping issues but he is the type who needs something to personally effect him or our family So he can see the BS with his own eyes.
I told him we don't agree with all they say so why do we go there? Then he says I've gone overboard and hate the society. He is open minded but thinks I am just going through 'growing ' pains or something.