FuGK This Religion- Stop Ruining My Life!!!
by wallievase 37 Replies latest jw friends
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punkofnice
Darn. I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel.
Outlaw -
It`s been happening for as long as I can remember..
Usually nobody notices it until it happens to them..
I totally agree.
Let us know how it pans out.
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KateWild
I am also so sorry your wife is doing this. It's terrible. This cult is responsible for splitting families. I have lost my family too because of thie cult and the mishandling of DV. I know what it feels like to get the raw end of the deal in a bad divorce. It's not easy, I won't pretend that it is. Keep us informed and we can provide support.
You never know her decision may not be final.
Kate xx
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NVR2L8
Sorry to hear that your wife is playing that card. When I told my wife I could not longer believe the ever changing " truth " she said she didn't want to be married to a non believer. I told her I understood her disappointment but today would be the only time I would ignore this kind of threat...if this was to reoccure she would no longer be married at all and there would be no turning back. It's been 4 years since and things have returned pretty much to normal between us as long as we keep the religion out of our marriage. Don't panic and be the best husband you can and see where this will take you.
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SAHS
“Hairtrigger”: “The three reasons for separation is new to me. I was under the impression the bible allows for separation/divorce only in case of infidelity.”
You have to distinguish between a separation and an actual divorce.
Actually, the position of the WTS (as they interpret the Scriptures in their literal, fundamentalist way) is that the only grounds for a divorce is adultery, which involves any act considered to be a form of “porneia.” A divorce is an actual legal proceeding, eventually resulting in the annulment of the administrative marriage status.
A separation, however, is just a physical separation, which can be temporary or permanent and can be undone anytime by simply making up and getting back together. It is a separation that is completely legitimate under the circumstances of, as the original poster listed, “abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance.”
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steve2
It is always hard when there's a third party involved in the marriage. In this instance, it has never been just you and your wife but has also included the organization. Sad to say, but some spouses are more tightly wedded to the organization than to their spouse.
The two biggest marriage spoilers of all time? Sexual infidelity and religious infidelity - although, depending on your take on scripture, only one provides solid grounds for divorce.
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Theredeemer
I went through something very similar to you. I lost everything including my marriage. In time, however, I got it all back. Do not let anyone control your happiness. If she really loves you she will fight for you. You are willing to be with her even if she stays a witness, why cant she do the same for you? Like they said before in this thread she is masking her unhappiness with loyalty to her faith. If she wants to go there is nothing you can do. Let her go. These are the words I said " I dont want you to go but I will not beg you to stay. You know how I feel about you but i cant stop you from leaving." In the end the fasterthis happens the faster you will move on.
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sparrowdown
Move on, build a new life, move to new town if you have to.
Also get fit, looking good is the best revenge.
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wallievase
Thank you all for your support. I will try to keep you up to date.
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wallievase
Cofty- We have been married a little under 10 years, no kids, and havent tried counseling yet.
