My DF'd father going in for cancer surgery

by PaintedToeNail 18 Replies latest jw friends

  • PaintedToeNail

    quelly-I agree, he needs help to overcome that problem...having a good lay might've helped prevent it, lol! He isn't a bad person, just a weak one.

    BU2B-My dad is a nice person in general, there have been times that I would've liked to wring his neck, but that is a child's occasional perogative. I remember one time when I was a kid there was a DF'd young man he spotted on the side of the road, his car had a flat tire. It was winter in northern Minnesota. He told us kids we had to stop and help him. Upon learning there was no spare tire, we drove the young man home. My dad had been an elder in the mid 1970's. He resigned (stepped down) when there was a young sister who was getting the shaft by the elders, he said they rubber stamped her DFing to please her uncle who really hated her. He made sure to take her uncle down before he stepped down. He never accepted being an elder ever again.

  • hamsterbait

    I am astonished that people allow eldughs into the most private and intimate places in their lives... Your mother dubbing him in was mean and disloyal - though I can understand her bing hurt that your Dad likes looking at other lovely looking women.

    Of course if he had been molesting little boys, it would all be hushed up.

    I hope the treatment gives him some help, and more time to spend with you. he should cut all the spiteful JWs shunning him out of his will.

  • PaintedToeNail

    hamsterbait-You are sooo right! The congregation he goes to had 2 brothers put in jail for pedophila, one was only reproved. There was a 3rd one, I don't know what happened to him-he claimed to be of the anointed-he moved away, they did DF his victim though, for acting out sexually a couple of years later....

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  • bigmac

    your mother sounds just like my first wife.

    i hope your dad makes a good recovery--then gets a divorce--and lives happily ever after.

    like me.

  • PaintedToeNail

    Update for all those who have contacted me regarding my father: His surgery was inexplicably postponed until the 25th. His surgeon's office left a message with my mom, who asked no questions, that they were postponing it and they would contact her later. After my brother and I pushed her, my mom called his office and they rescheduling for the 25th telling her the surgeon is going on vacation. His lung doctor wanted him operated on immediately, and that was a month ago. There has been nothing but a lack of communication between the two doctors amongst themselves and with my parents. It is very frustrating being so far away and not being able to be in the loop.

    My brother & I have tried to get put on the medical records as being people who the doctors were able to speak with regarding my dad's condition, but my mom flipped out and accused us of trying to make her life difficult...meanwhile, my dad is more depressed than ever with all this craziness going on.

  • BU2B

    Wow so pedophilia only gets a reproof, but harmlessly looking at depictions of normal human sexuality on screen gets you treated like you were dead. Nice.

    Newsflash! All heterosexual men with active testosterone in their veins look at other women. Either they will admit to it or deny it but it is true. I believe it is normal behaviour. I am not talking about being a creep about it or leering. It is so crazy to me that some women think that by reading a few sentences on your wedding day, you can instanty stop noticing attractive women. Pornography can become an addiction like anything else, but like anything else, if kept in moderation it is harmless. If my wife was looking at porn, and I caught her at it, I would not be jealous at all. They are just images on a screen. If my wife is at the gym and notices a well built handsome man and likes what she sees, will it bother me? NO. Now if she got his number and went behind my back with him that is another issue entirely.

  • Balaamsass2

    This is so sad. Please PM us the info.

  • JW GoneBad
    JW GoneBad

    So your poor dad was df'd for watching porn!

    I read somewhere that women are more and more becomming viewers of porn. The stats are something like 50/50! In other words as many women as men are viewing stuff like soft pornography and otherwise.

    So I wonder in the 110,000+ congregations of Jehovah's Witnesses-how many of our dear loyal army of female witnesses secretly visit naughty websites or watch naughty T.V. channels?

    So you're right if your fathers' viewing porn doesn't bother you in the least!!!

    Best wishes to your father!

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