He's gone apostate! As some may remember, when I started my fade, my husband freaked out and thought I was going to leave him. He wanted to see someone about our marriage. Unbeknownst to me, he spoke with an elder at the Kingdom Hall who recommend a psychiatrist to him. He told me he made an appoinment with a therapist and I agreed to go with him. Hubby never told me the Doc was a JW. After meeting the Doc and finding out, I was rather ticked, to say the least and felt very betrayed.
The Doc asked why I left, and I told him I didn't really feel comfortable telling him anything since he was a JW, but reminded him of the HIPAA laws that prevented him from disclosing anything that I told him to the elders. The subsequent conversation(s) delved into all the doubts and inconsistancies within the Organization, the control and fear mongering and so on. He made a rather desultory comment about me wanting to do my own thing at the expense of my family, which was really angering. My doubts and concerns were from the time I was a little child and my decision to abruptly fade wasn't taken lightly, knowing the consequences defecting could easily bring-shunning from every single person I've ever known. After several decades of trying to swallow everything from the GB, my health and mental state were shot, I couldn't live a lie anymore.
Anyway, it is now several years later, I had stopped going with hubby after about 3 visits, not feeling the need to be insulted any longer. Hubby stopped going about a year ago. Recently, he needed a refill on his meds. He called for an appointment, as this Doc doesn't like to do refills without seeing the patient personally. Two weeks later an envelope comes in the mail from the office, addressed to hubby, but since I take care of all bills, I opened it, expecting to have an invoice to pay. Instead it was a brief mesage saying: "Due to a conflict of interest, the Doctor felt it was necessary to have hubby see another doctor. Please understand." I was surprised. I thought that the Doc didn't want to see him because of me, as the District Convention was freshly over and the talks on apostates were just brought out, that I was the conflict of interest. Immediately calling hubby, he seemed curiously undisturbed about the letter, and rather aloof when I wondered what had transpired. After several queries, when I finally came out with it and said I wonder if he felt I was the conflict of interest because I refuse to attend any longer or if perhaps the Doc got DF'd, Hubby finally came clean, the Doctor had sent in a letter removing HIMSELF from the congregation! What a surprise to me! He had known for several weeks and never said anything, hoping I would never find out.