I get the impression that LilyC has not been able to find the OP she started - so she may not even know about our responses on her OP. It could be the same with this OP. I'd feel a bit demoralized too!
I do feel for what LilyC is going through - unless first-time posters have some grasp of how to navigate this kind of site, it can seem like posts have just disappeared. It would probably not help to pm LilyC because again notice of sending a message to her will only register on the tiny envelope icon in the upper right corner - and then its significance could well be lost on a newcomer.
Here's hoping LilyC sticks around and does some exploring of the site so that she begins to find her way around so she can find posts.