Wake up and smell the cult! please I'm begging you.

by sparrowdown 16 Replies latest jw friends

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  sparrowdown

  At times I yearn for those I love that are still "in" to just WAKE UP AND SMELL THE CULT.

  I end up feeling sorry for them yet angry at them at the same time.

  I know each person is on their own journey and its a process,

  but I just wish the process would hurry up already!

  When will this nightmare end.

  Most days I am glad to have seen the light, but otherdays I wonder if the

  "light at the end of the tunnel" is actually an oncoming train!

  How the hell is anyone supposed to get through this.

  These people bleed you dry then kick you to the curb when they're done.

  I know it's still early days for me and things will continue to improve but at the moment it's like

  MAKE IT STOP MAKE IT STOP.

  Meltdown over. Thankyou for your patience.
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  problemaddict

  Someone once said to me this phrase that has stuck with me.

  "The society shoots its wounded."

  That is very poigant. Weakness is not treated witht he care and love explained in scripture, it is manipulated and redefined at their whim.

  People will wake up, most will not. You need to get on with YOUR life. Be the best you, that you can be. Allow yourself some mistakes.
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  villagegirl

  Sparrow - Try to find some other connections - It something that interests you,

  or what you always wanted to do - something involving other people -

  try to just relax if you can, I am not sure your age or circumstances, but

  thats not a train at the end of the tunnel, its hope, freedom, opportunity

  and new friends.
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  jam

  My son was over for a visit the other day, he followed me

  out of the borg. We were talkng about our journey out of the

  borg. It was rough for my sons (2) and I. At one time I thought it

  would be better for them to go back, LOL. But today, one a college

  graduate, the other getting married next month to a lovely young lady.

  My son told me , dad I thought at one time in my life I was going mad.

  Once they realize they had been lied too, that is when they started moving

  in the right direction. Today, their mother do not shunn them.
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  clarity

  Sparrow...... come on little bird you will be fine, takes

  time. How long were you in?

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  Frustrating conversation i had yesterday...I finally realized

  that when you point out the beliefs/doctrine of jwitnesses,

  they don't know what you are talking about .....never read THAT!

  *

  Try to show them or explain it, and guess what...are they shocked, amazed.

  .....oh no...................they don't care!!!! aaaaagagggggg!

  clarity
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  sparrowdown

  You are all so right in what you say perspective is a luxury somedays. THANKS

  problemaddict- they often quote apostle Paul "...when I am weak is when I am strong......" but you are right, in reality they despise weakness.

  villagegirl- trying my best, but figuring out "who am I" will take time I guess. You're right though the answer lies in getting back

  into this game of life. It's "hello world this is me " time.

  jam-thanks for sharing that gives me hope. Congrats, sounds like you got yourself a coupla great kids there and

  soon a daughter in law as well. You must be so proud.

  clarity- your username says it all. Sweet clarity of thought, I could never go back to the murky waters of half truth again.

  sparrow
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  quellycatface

  You're gonna be okay.

  This won't last forever.I still feel angry about being scrapped on and my mum is still "in".

  Get some me time for yourself.Do things that make you feel good. Don't feel guilty for enjoying life.

  You could try volunteering in your local community, give your compassion to folks who will appreciate it.

  Sending positive thoughts your way.
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  sparrowdown

  Thanks quelly- excellent suggestion I definitely want to give volunteering a go, maybe a land care group to begin with.

  No more pearls before swine for me.

  Feelin the luv already.
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  Frazzled UBM

  sparrowdown - I can very much relate to what you said in your OP. When I realised what my wife was stuck in and saw the gaping holes in what they taught, I thought it was just a matter of me explaining those holes and she would go "Oh yes now I see" and leave. How wrong I was! It has been a bitter learning experience for me. Probably the most frustrating experience of my life. I am far more philosophical these days.
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  KateWild

  sparrowdown,

  Exiting a cult and waking up can be a very emotional experience for many. We experience great highs and deep lows. Having family trapped is a nightmare and a huge loss, that is why it is such a cult, there is a slim chance of leaving without sufferring the consequences of shunning in some form.

  My exit has been a tremendous struggle, but I won't go back. I just can't sit in that KH and go through the unscriptural RI process. So I struggle and take each day as it comes. My blessing is that my grown up daughter moved away to another city and faded sucessfully. We talk everyday, I am happy for that.

  My sadness is I have no contact with my son, I miss him terribly. Ups and downs sparrowdown life is full of them.

  Kate xx