Hi, for a couple of months now. I stopped (after some 17 years) visiting meetings etc. My intellect and conscience could not longer stand the lectures from the platform and in the magazines. Anyway, my wife is still in, and almost seems she is even more "in" than before.
Today there is a circuit meeting. I did not go but she decided to go. I can only imagine the comments when she is there:
oh, how strong you are to be here, so good of you, a very good example etc etc.
If I would go out on my own to day, people who know me/us, we likely say: where is your wife? that is not nice that she preferred to go to that meeting than to stay with you, that religion must have a strong influence on her etc etc
The first group only looks at how my wife is following the JW routine, regardless her (scriptural) responsibility to her husband. The second group will have a much softer opinion and possibly find it all a bit strange that the wife is away for the whole day.
I did ask her why she does not follow the council by Paul that the man is the head of the woman, in other words, the woman should follow the lead of the man. I am still very christian but not a JW anymore (faded, not DA/DF). So, there is not one little shred of scriptural support to justify her to choose for an/the organisation and as such disrespecting / disobeying her husband. In my view, it is actually against the scriptures.
I sometimes wonder: how many marriages eventually ended due to this phenomenon?