This issue is really at the heart of the problem. Isn't it?
If you belong to an organization that requires that you do something that violates your conscience, why are you still part of that organization? For some of you, the answer is that you do not want to be seperated from family. This becomes the dilemma. Are you willing to violate your own sense of right and wrong to not be alienated from your family?
I do not envy your choices. It is one hell of a choice to have to make. The JW is an evil, evil organization to put anybody in that position.