Elders who would read you the riot act for missing meetings, but constantly climbing on an airplane to fly off on trips here and there. Elders who would criticize people for working to pay their bills, instead of sitting on their asses in a meeting and hoping God would notice they needed money.
Sisters who couldn't keep a confidence, couldn't live up to their word, couldn't be on time, couldn't be honest, if they were gonna git a million dollars. But were very careful not to associate with weak ones who were bad associates, oh my no. Sisters who were in the nail salons and hair salons and tanning salons and carried the best brands of handbags, advising hard working sisters against materialism. One time I overheard this piece of "conversation:" OH yes, my shampoo is of the finest ingredients, well no, YOU wouldn't be able to buy it, it's imported from Australia, the cost is prohibitive, but I can't use that harsh stuff on my hair that most people buy.
You think I'm kidding?!
Brothers who would walk past a piece of trash and then give a talk about keeping the place clean. Brothers who would ignore a sister at the literature counter while they had big haw-haw good times back there. Good old boy elders who would talk about good investment opportunities and be your best friend until the thing went under - then they never seen your face before. Elders who ran construction crews and would pick up illegals, work them a day and then never go back to pay them. Elders who beat the everloving crap out of their wives and stayed in good standing while she was df'd. Elders who were goddamned drunks but the other elders would cover up for them - and THEIR wives were df'd for trying to tell what was going on in the home.
This cult is pathetic, hateful, lying, rude, inconsiderate, domineering, condescending, full of shit and yes! HYPOCRITICAL is nowhere near strong enough word to describe them.
Many ex-jw talk about how they knew so many good, well-intentioned people who are just misled. I knew many "nice" and good-reputation people who would not lift a finger or move their jaw to help someone being mistreated. They would kiss the ass of the abuser because he was in good-standing. Many sweet-faced sister had a scheming, manipulative agenda going on all the time.
It is the hardest thing I know, to do what's right when it will turn your life upside down, totally shred what you worked many years for. No more reputation in the cult, no more good dependable friends who know you and love you - you thought! When I left I found out people i thought were friends were the opposite of friends. Users, liars, hypocrites, that's it.