Mulan, I have been following this horrible episode and I feel so terrible for what your mother is having to go through at the hands of so-called loving people. The callous and cold reaction of that elder and the gossipping busy-bodies is all too familiar for many of us.
Too often, this behaviour will be excused by that all-too-familiar phrase, "We are all imperfect humans so bad behaviour is bound to happen". But with all the frequent meetings and constant reminders the JWs have that should keep them on the right path, this kind of treatment is inexcusable.
While it is true that there are individuals in the congregations that do have a "real" heart and genuinely follow Jesus example of love, they, in all reality, are few and far between.
The sad fact is that even if your mother was in another environment, she would probably not be visited much anyway. I have observed this personally time and time again when older ones who have been "pillars of the congregation" are left to sit in there homes or nursing homes, day in and day out, with only an occasional visitor, if even one.
My mother is another example of someone who reached her 90's and spent her days pining away for someone to just even pop in to say "hello".
The Society also cannot force people (with the exception of elders) to visit your mother, so much is dependant on the ethics of the local publishers.
Yes I agree...yet even though the elders are
required by the WTS to take the lead and set an example of visiting the elderly and infirm etc... bottom line?....they just don't do it!!! And what is
done, is just token and temporary. Again I speak from experience.
And yet when my mother died just a few months ago, her service and loyalty to the org. was praised to the roof. I wanted to jump up and scream: "if you think so highly of her, why didn't you show your "love", why didn't you spend some time with her, why didn't you even just pop in for even 10 minutes and share a story or a laugh. That joy would have lasted her for days on end.
Part of the problem stems from the pressure for the "amount of time" one is expected to report for service. So to take out even a 1/2 hour from counting time, is begrudged. How much better would it be to not have to be so "time-conscious" so that the publishers could feel free to spend their time visiting the sick, the elderly, the widows, the down-hearted, like Jesus did, without having to worry about not getting in their precious "10 hours".
On top of that, your family is not even da'd or df'd Mulan. How can they justify their treatment of her because of your inactivity? Absolutely mind-boggling!!!!
Mulan, you mentioned in another thread that the one you called in Patterson said to keep him informed. Why not do just that and inform him of this latest unchrist-like retort from that elder to your mom. Perhaps some "elder cleanup" action from the "higher-ups" may come of this.
I wish you could tell your mom of the love pouring out to you and her from here.
"Never doubt that a small group of citizens can change the world.
Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has."...Margaret Mead