So I have been replying to letters from a JW friend who suddenly started writing to me after I've been out for nearly 25 years.
I have mentioned things like the poverty that pioneering causes from my own experience, worrying about having enough money to buy food.
I also said that the scrimping would have been worth it if we had been saving to buy a home or go on lovely holidays.
Instead we ended up with nothing materially and we were living in a tiny rented flat when we left.
When I think of all the places I wanted to visit with my husband but couldn't because we were pioneering and had no money and now it is too late because my husband has died at the age of 54. We did get to visit some beautiful places but we ran out of time.
What I was trying to say to her was - life's too short. Stop waiting for the new system, get on with your life. Stop exhausting yourself in that religion. She and her husband are so ill.
We are sorry that your time in the Truth seems to have been very difficult. You seemed very happy when you and (husband) were pioneering - you were a real example to us and an encouragement too. Did you feel pushed into it or was it your choice? Sometimes we can feel pushed into doing things we really didn't want to - sometimes it can be a goog thing - other times not.
I feel amazed at this. Did I feel pushed into pioneering? Well if you take into account the endless talks and articles making me feel personally responsible for all the people who will die at armageddon if I didn't pioneer! She has totally missed the point or refused to see it that pioneering messes up peoples lives and makes them lose out on so much.