Something happened recently, and I thought I would share a few comments. First, lets set the stage....
If anyone is familiar with current events in the Pacific Northwest, you may have heard of the death of a beautiful young lady, Whitney Heichel, a short while ago. In short, Whitney was a young sister that was kidnapped and killed by a "congregation" friend. If you havent heard of it, a quick search of her name will bring you up to speed.
These events and the subsequent outpouring of love to her family from the entire world have been wonderful, and heart-wrenching. Our hearts go out to her and her family and her husband.
Just recently, her mom was interviewed briefly at the District Convention in Portland.
To emphasize, I am in no way belittling or finding fault with the family, or the mom, in any way whatsoever.
Listen to her comments, and then we can continue (copy/paste this link, maybe someone can make it live): www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vDVfgdn-CA
Again, I have the utmost sympathy and respect for the family and for the situation at hand, and don't mean to demean them in any way.
My wife, Victoria, heard this for the first time the other nite, and asked me to listen to it. I did, but kept my comments to myself, recognizing a chance to help her to reason on something (I want her to start thinking about the reality that she has ignored as long as I have). I asked her what she thought (this was in light of what we had discussed about other DC experience being over-dramatized or just plain made-up, see my other post).
Jack: so... what do you think?
Jack: what do you mean by that?
Vic: I'm not sure............ hmmmmmm....
Now at this point, I could tell she didnt want to discuss it. Her mind was in a state of confusion. So I dropped it until later, as we were getting ready for bed, kids were out of the room...
Jack: so, what did you think of that interview?
Vic: something just wasn't right....
Jack: what do you mean?
Vic: it sounded......odd.....(her brain was fighting it)........like.........I am not sure.....
Jack: you mean....(let me help out, I will state the obvious)....... dramatized?
Vic: exactly! Like it was........
Jack: made up?
Vic: well, yes! Unrealistic. It just didnt feel right. Like it was scripted. But that can't be right, could it? Would they "make up", or dramatize that experience on purpose? To take advantage of people's emotions?
Jack: Well, I dont know the situation, but what does your gut tell you?
**** Here's where the conversation took a wild turn! Here is an example of Cognitive Dissonance in full effect!****
Vic: I know what I hear, I can tell it just isn't real! But the brothers would never do that would they? I just can't think that they would! That's not honest! I don't want to talk about it anymore, I don't want to think that way!
Jack: Dear Vic, learn to listen to what your brain and heart is telling you, don't ignore it.
....end of conversation...
Here's my point to this little exercise. Your brain is trained, your conscience is formed, and your heart is actively telling you what is right and what is true. You just choose to ignore it. Your mind is fighting to wake up. Listen to it.
Your comments are welcome, but please do not disparage this sister or her family in any way. She too is captive of a concept. It's not her fault. I ask only that you comment on the process involved.
Jack Harper, Tech49