All of you provided some great points. I am chuckling inside because it was funny to read your comments and see how intuitive you all were from reading very few words from him. More interesting than that I did not have to explain myself at all and you understood my position. It is a great reminder that there are many who truly understand each other on here. I wish I could ((((hug)))) you all right now. Just to answer a few questions:
I am the younger sibling, he is 47. Noticed how I skipped over how old I am;)
As for the other questions and clarifications some of you had: I did not run off with his ex-anything...in fact his ex-mother-in-law (nieces grandma) brought my nieces to come see me because my brother blow off to plans to have them come visit me 3 times in the last year. She had a great deal of expense in getting them to reunite with their aunt. Sounds like a real bad person that I should be rude to, right?
As for the conversation being scheduled for a 2nd witness I am not concerned. I just did not want it in writing because I do not want him to show our father, which would just invite more arguments into my life. In short, my father is the one who forbid me and my husband from saying anything to the rest of the family regarding leaving the org. He said that if we did he would not tell the rest of the family to cut off association. My father did not keep his agreement and went to my brother with the news after we left the state. Between the both of them they informed several JW's and inactive JW's to not associate with us because we are apostate. Much more has happened but I intend to write a separate blog regarding the specifics.
As for the wanting pity comments he made, I was not seeking pity from my nieces but I did explain my position to them while they were visiting. I am concerned because they are getting pressured to get baptized. Obviously, I do not want them in the same position I am. They are well aware of the shunning and disgusting behavior from JW's. Their mother has been Dfd for approx. 6 years. Hopefully, their EX JW mother is vigilant in forbidding baptism as my nieces have stated.
On to the update: He actually did call me back! My head is spinning with all the conversation so it should be interesting to try and explain it. I thought after marinating on it last night I would have clarity, I am still confused He is fabulous in saying enough that you have to read between the lines. So I am going to go off of my instinct and hope that you do not see it as judgmental and please understand I have experience with him to make this summation. Although, he understands that my motives were pure he wants me to ignore what happened in the past. Basically, he wants me to believe the organization is pure in its intentions and he doesn't think we should focus on the negativities. Because of how it is affecting him. I attempted to point out why I have learned otherwise. If he listened to half of what I said (which he typically doesn't) I have planted some seeds of doubt. He paused and seemed genuine interested in a few things I mentioned because he follow up with questions.
I would drive myself crazy trying to explain all of the discussion but there was one topic that was perfectly setup. I asked him "do you really think that Jehovah God waited until the last 100 years to pick his true religion?" He said he didn't, he chose it in Pentecost 33 CE. I said please do me a favor and pay attention to your July 15th watchtower. You are already out of date with your explanation. He said he would. I want to thank those on the board for highlighting these topics. It was very cool to know more about Watchtower news before he did, ha!!! Needless to say he was quite after that one
He just seemed to repeatly make enough excuses regarding my situation. That I really needed to keep digging for truth. Although, I stated over and over that I found out "truth" I just don't think his JW brain could justify talking to me anymore unless I was in a doubting faze. In the end I reassured him that I am not living in the past but I am in wonderful place and have found truth. I did not say it to him but I am hesitant to invite my JW family back into my life because I have become a healthy person without them in it. I know I am getting ahead of myself because it isn’t very likely that they will really have anything to do with me. I may need to readjust my thinking on that. I just know deep down they have selfish motives for wanting me barely attached to them. OK, I am rambling now so I better stop.
Thank you again for all the great advice!
