I’m sure this has been reiterated over the years again and again.
But how we approach our JW loved ones may either free them…or drive them further into the organization and away from us. Of course, I saw this hypocritically, because I’ve made the same mistakes. It’s easier said than done.
But I believe the absolutely worst mistake is to tell a JW: You are in a cult. It didn’t work for me when I was a believing JW. And after I was out, it took me six months to finally look on the Internet and start researching, another three months before I could admit this was a cult. Steven Hassan’s timing was much the same from the time he awakened to the time he could admit to himself that his former religion was a cult.
One of the best things is to ask a loved one, “What would you do if you were in my shoes?” If you can get them to imagine things from a different viewpoint.
I think this video of Steven Hassan's lecture, though 40 minutes, might be an important investment of time in formulating whatever approach we take.