Sometimes when you are in the borg, you miss the obvious. I recall a sheperding call around Sept. 2001. I was a brand-new M.S. and went with an older elder. We visited a spanish family of 8 who was "broke" they had no furniture in their apartment. (They had a several blankets foled and in the corner and one of the kids said they ALL sleep in the living room) It was suprising seeing this family who was always so happy live so poor. I was shocked. The elder talked about the importance of meetings. The brother, (a dishwasher who worked even on Sundays-a big no-no) said that his boss wouldn't budge and he had to work on the weekends. The elder said trust in Jah. The brother got emotional and said that he hadn't pay the electic bill and was worried it was going to be shut off. The elder didn't care. As we are driving back in the car, I ask the elder why the cong. doesn't help the family? He said that we don't do that, they should look to family in times of need (financially) , first. But if a brother wanted to help out as an individual (like ME) it was fine. I asked why do we bring a brother and his wife from bethel every memorial season for the talk. We pay for plane tickets, food, etc. (I was the account servant so I knew how much $$$ we were spending) but can't help a brother who REALLY does need the help (Not just a vacation from Brooklyn) He looked at me and said "It's the way things are done, and it's best to just let it go!"
That always bugged me, but it's not till you leave the borg that you see the cold-hearted actions of the elders time and time again.