Problemaddict, if he does run to them, might that be a good thing? Never having been a MS or elder, he hasn't seen or experienced the things that people like "AuntConnie" are seeing and experiencing. I think he may have a very delusional picture of this group. Using rationale, WT books, and reading the Bible in context seems to have absolultely no impact at all. He's sold - hook line and sinker.
Let me share something with you. I was in an abusive marriage at one time but didn't know it (sound familiar?). I had creative ways of writing off my husband's irrational behavior when I would discuss my challenges with those who loved me. Eventually, I found myself isolated and tired of the BS. I had cut off everyone who could have helped me because "they just didn't get him like I did." It was then that I had to deal with the walls I had built FOR him and decide whether I was going to continue to allow his inconsistencies to impact my life. It was when I had to deconstruct myself that I was able to create boundaries for what I was going to allow to be acceptable.
He acknowledges a few concerns (which I've capitalized on when appropriate), but I suspect he hasn't seen the worst. He tells me they are starting to recognize him for more privileges and that he's showing them he's reaching out for them. I'm thinking I can't save him from himself. He has to do some of this work. My love for him can't insist on its own way.
I promise you, AuntConnie is sitting in the middle of crossroads I'm somewhat familiar with... hers are messier, but there comes a point when one has to say enough is enough.
If my thinking is flawed, tell me.