Yeah...it was wrong. I got upset and blurted this truth. Seems kinda screwy that telling someone a truth could be wrong.
I told him that I was feeling a little concerned by quite a bit of what I'm seeing in WT literature and that I was worried that it didn't matter to him. I continued by saying that it seemed that the society had carte blanche to say whatever they wanted in my Lord's name and that he (my BF) was okay with it.
We started down the road of talking about the rising partaker figures. He said it was no big deal for that was between the partakers and God. I told him that the Society's history of claims that a reduction being correlative to Armageddon's arrival was failing. I told him he'd have to understand the evolution of the construct. I talked about Rutherford's new earthly paradise that was formed around 1935 and how millions then living would never die since the generation of 1914 would not disappear, the masthead creation (and changes) and how the partaker's figures fit into this grand scheme. I had him find and read out loud 3 or 4 Watchtower articles (thanks, Jwfacts) that substantiated my claims of the WT's historical stance on the reduction of partakers and how, when the numbers weren't decreasing, there were articles of emotionally imbalanced people partaking.
I also told him there were remnants of these teachings in their presentations today (I once called him on his use of "soon" and required that he not use it if he didn't know when "soon" was).
I should have left it there. He was already agitated.
I heard him say something to the effect of, "the Society HAS made adjustments... blah blah ...for the path of the righteous ones.... light getting brighter... blah blah and so we no longer do any date setting!"
I blurted... "so let me get this straight... your organization has required 120 years of adjustments to get to where Christendom has been for a couple of thousand years and you want me to leave what I've always known and believe in this stuff as these guys figure it out? They're using some awfully dim lights!!!!"
He blurted... "well Christendom has gotten some things wrong too!"
I followed with... "the foundational tenets of all of Christendom are the same! There's no 'us vs. them' in Christendom! I don't hear that coming from the pulpits!" (a friend noted that Protestants even use the same seminaries) I told him I had to go and said goodbye. I had had enough.
Text message from him immediately followed: "A fool is one who claims to know all. Careful with your statements. You do not know my conversations with those as what you call traditional Christians. I can't allow you to tell me what I've heard. If you get upset, that's alright but you aren't in a position to tell me about my MANY conversations with traditional Christians."
My response: "You were raised in a cult. I'm tired of hiding this. If you don't believe me you can do your own research. This is a man-made organization. That's why things keep changing. I'm tired of being the only one doing the research. I love you but you can't hear me nor can you do any true research outside of the cult."
Him: "Stay where you are XXXX. You see no good where I am anyway. CULT. Take care of yourself."
ME: Your behavior, information, thinking and emotions are all controlled by them (AKA BITE methodoligies). There's nothing I can do and no, I will not be joining your cult. I will not separate myself from Christ.
I really love and care about him and he knows this. I'm tired of withholding all that I've learned and trying to use it to guide him down a path he can't even fathom. This has become a load that is too heavy for me to carry.
My truth (which was the elephant in my own mouth) is out.
I know this was against the advice you gave me. Even if I lose him (which I may have), maybe this year and a half of dripping will, one day, help him find his way out.
Nonetheless, thank you all for helping me.
I'm not leaving JWN so you'll have to tolerate the non-jw here. I've learned too much to lose you guys too. :)