I hate my situation. A very close relative is remarried to a man who before becoming a JW was a shady character. He has said if he wasn't a JW, he'd have guns and stuff, always worried about things. He also had made the comment before that (they are in real bad financial situation) how he kind of understands how some people have just had enough and just kill themselves and family. He is also a very hard core extremist jw too, very judgemental.
Anyway the close relative of mine who is married to him is very hardcore jw too. wants to associate me but can't until i return or go to meetings, etc. So far all my convos have been I don't believe the same, I don't want to ruin their faith so I don't want to go into details why I am doing what I am doing, etc. And that relative is not in the best health, is disabled.
So on the one hand, if I just let them have it, and if it works no more shunning issues, spell out why I am doing what I am doing, why I don't believe, if they actually listen, I worry him becoming a walking timebomb and a danger. And I worry my close relative, may see their whole life wasted, disabled now, just going from 100% knowing and having a hope to not knowing and unsure about it all could become suicidal.
It's hard to know what the right thing is in this case.