panhandlegirl: I'm not sure I would want to have anything to do with those family members who have shunnned me.
I suppose it would be different for everybody. Some could pick up where they left off while others consider those old relationships destroyed - nothing to salvage. For me, there's nothing left to build on. I know who those people are, I wish them no harm... I have no room for them in my life. It would be like a stranger from 500 miles away wanting to create some sort of loving, chummy, familial relationship with me without any clear reason given.