It's been 1 year today we landed in the wilds of PA

by TotallyADD 13 Replies latest jw friends

  • TotallyADD
    TotallyADD

    Hello everyone. Sorry I have not check in the last 3 months my computer was broke. And my wife and I have been very busy with the new business. It has been 1 year today we landed in our new home here in wilds of PA. Our 22 year old cat is now 23 years old and somedays it acts like it's going to out live us. Many things have happen to us in the last year. Meeting new friends, not talking to any JW's, not going to any meetings (we didn't even know when the memorial was this year. To busy with work.) Slowly getting out of the cults way of thinking. Opening our minds to new things and ideas. Growing a beard then shaving if off because my wife did not like kissing me. (It was grey anyway and it made me look 10 years older) I still have not cut my hair in the last year. I going to see what I look like with long hair. Still have not had one JW knock on our door or any calls from local elders wanting to know whats going on. Our so called friends from were we came from called once in the last year. Know what they say "out of sight out of mind".

    With spring coming we see our business growing. And for the first time in my life I will be able to work on my vegetable garden without worrying about goind out in field service and meetings. My wife and I may even be able to go garage selling. It's funny when I frist came on this site I had to be on it many times a day. It was like a life line. Now not being on it for many months and only hearing what my wife had to say about it I find myself not needing it so much. Like I am standing on my own two feet now. Most of our new friends know we are Ex. JW's. Both Reopened Mind and I make sure they know it is a cult and how hard it is to get out of it and the consequences we may face in the future. This is now to say I need my fix once in a while. It just I don't need it as much. Starting a new year up here I look forward to the new challenges and new things that will come our way.

    I know my world is not perfect but I am no longer controlled by the thinking of the cult. Which now allows my authentic personality to come out. Which I have learned is not so bad. I think I am more loving and forgiving than before. More tolerant of people and empathetic to their needs. Also I have learned there are some people you just stay away from. To many problems. My hope is for all of you that is still sitting on the fence not knowing what to do. Think hard about what it will take for you to get out of this cult. Life is to short. And yes this is all the life we have. So make the most of it. You never know what the future has in store for you. I say this because a 32 year old grandson of a person who works for us two week ago got a new job after being unemployed for many months. They had him go the local hosptial for blood work. The needle they used was infected with staph. In two days he went septic and died. Leaving behind a 10 month old son. This hit us very hard. Showing now is the time to do the most you can with the life you have. Again I thank all of you for all the support you have given my wife and I over the years. Until next time. Totally ADD P.S. For those who wonder why I did not use my wife's computer. I am not allowed to touch it. LOL

  • flipper
    flipper

    TOTALLY ADD- Good to hear from you friend. I'm so glad that you and Reopened Mind' business is going well. It takes time to make adjustments when making a big move to a different state, and adding on top of that exiting a mind control cult - that's a lot of changes in a short period of time. But it sounds like you folks are doing swimmingly well ! Good for you ! We'll have to talk sometime soon. It's been too long. I'm very happy for both of you that life is treating you well. Take care buddy, Peace out, Mr. Flipper

  • Think About It
    Think About It

    TotallyADD......congratulations on the progress you & your wife have made with your lives since leaving the cult. The whole post was very interesting and will be encouraging to others. Good luck and great to hear things are going well.

    Think About It

  • cult classic
    cult classic

    TotallyADD,

    That is such a beautiful (dare I say happifying...lol) report to hear this Sunday morning. It's so great you're finding your place. Here's to many wonderful anniversaries outside the religion.

    P.S. We've been out six years and have had only a few JW friends contact us. You're right it's definitely out of sight, out of mind with them. Which is a good thing. It allows you more space to completely break free.

  • kitten whiskers
    kitten whiskers

    My heart aches for you and your worker's family on the loss of their grandson. That is so tragic.

    I'm glad you are enjoying your life and tried a beard! It was one of the first things my hubby tried too! His stayed. I like it. :o) The crazy and rebellious things we can try when we leave! Hee hee! It sounds like you are really enjoying life. Isn't it grand to enjoy it and not worry so much? I hope you have a wonderful gardening and garage saleing season!

  • EmptyInside
    EmptyInside

    Good to hear things are going well for you. And a cat almost 23 years old! Hope everything continues to go as well for you and your wife.

    And I'm sorry to hear of such a tragic story of your worker's grandson. How negligent of the hospital. I hope the family sues for the his baby's sake,even though,it won't bring him back.

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    I can relate to your story. Hubby and I, too, moved to a remote mountain town and are totally loving it. I bet we are more remote than you, though, LOL.

    Sulphur Gates

    From the wilds of northern Alberta.

  • AnneB
    AnneB

    Something in the way you wrote leads me to believe that you are really making it. Congratulations!

  • Phizzy
    Phizzy

    Well done Tottie ! Don't put the hair in a pony tail, a friend of mind did, and another mate stood next to him, lifted it up and said:

    "It's true what they say about these Mick, lift one up and there's an ars*h*le underneath!"

    I hope the business goes from strength to strength , Donuts if I remember ?

    Anyway, good to hear you are becoming an ex-XJW, to qualify for the double X you have to stay off JWN for at least a month !

    All the best to you and Mrs Totally.

  • Lozhasleft
    Lozhasleft

    Wow is it a year already? Well done and best wishes to you both.

    Loz x

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