Thank you everyone for the kind words and support.
My parents are really not in this picture too much. This is my mother's mother. My mom passed away about 6 years ago from pancreatic cancer. My dad is pretty much spineless and useless, also leaning toward supporting my sister's accusations of spiritism. This may explain some of my younger sister's behavior. I lost a sister to leukemia, as well as all of my other grandparents. I absolutely WILL NOT subject myself to another bullshit JW funeral.
My grandma really doesn't have anything in the way of finances. Medicare is covering the medical bills, thankfully.
It's wierd. Just whenyou think after 20 years that you're pretty much over the whole JW thing and have gotten used to not having a connection with family, something like this happens and stirs up old crap again.
But anyway, thanks again for your input. I am taking all of these points into consideration.