The embarassment factor growing up, the flag issue, music issues, party issues , lack of school sports, forbidden to join the Boy Scouts, knocking on a school mates doors in service....................I always felt that I was playing on a losing team.
Giordano: One thing you brought up is afterschool sports. This is one area where I think born-in JWs really miss something that can be very beneficial.
There are qualities that young people can learn from afterschool sports. One of them is to build confidence and the capability to engage in healthy competition. True, sometimes the competitiveness gets way out of hand, but I think for the most part, the character traits that it can instill are important for healthy social development and the ability to compete in the market place. One trait that you learn in school sports is training to better yourself and to compete; not to mention the team bonding that one develops with their peers. The job market demands these abilities. Many born-in JWs never really developed much social confidence, and never developed the attributes of healthy competition that are so crucial today. As a result, they feel very foreign to the world around them, and feel incapable of meeting the demands that the 21 st century economy. This is not to say that all JWs are totally dysfunctional, or that all non-JWs magically have these important attributes. It’s just that the Watchtower’s model sabotages young people in so many ways.