When I was studying........my study ladies had another study that was nearly ready for baptism. She had just started going door to door and getting VERY excited every time she placed a magazine with anyone...
One day they were talking (gossiping) about this ladies husband not liking her going out with them, so she just wouldn't tell him or tell him she was doing something else. And they were OK with that. When I pointed out that there were two things about that situation I didn't like.
1/ Lying to husband (either by ommision or outright lie)
2/ Them approving of this behaviour and encouraging her.
I argued that surely if her husband was the "head of the household" then she would share what she is doing. And if you want to be really to the book...she shouldn't do it at all if he's not happy about it. And what else would they encourage her to do behind his back.
They just brushed the matter under the carpet...and waffled something about it being for Jehovah and Jehovah being more important.
This was one of the things (along with many others) that made me question what they were teaching.
They bend the rules to suit....all in the name of Jehovah. And talk about blind...they just looked at me blankly when I said I didn't agree with what they were doing...you could tell by the looks on their faces, it was like I was speaking a foreign language...hmmmm...maybe I was.