Sorry to offend you Faundy. That was not my intent. SEX is not my goal. (note I said ...maybe even sex) I mentioned it after companionship because when members of the opposite sex get along well that can become a bridge that is crossed.
I feel sympathy for my wife too. She is a hardcore JW. Some of her comments at meetings put to shame those of many of our elders. I told her that if she were a guy...she would no doubt be an elder right now.
Thank you Faundy for thinking that marriages can still last once a person leaves the Witnesses. Maybe things are different there in the UK. Here, in the USA...where I'm from (my area or Circuit...) when persons leave there's usually separation. See, here...elders will question your spouse as to what YOU think or feel about the organization. If they feel it is necessary, they will say that separation is exceptable if they feel the person is in "spirital danger". My wife, being the good rank and file member she is would most likey object to anything you or anyone else here has to say. She considers "apostates" children of SATAN. She considers them the "EVIL SLAVE" talked about in Matthew 24.
I tried to be subtle at first to feel her out. I showed her some of the JW/Pedophile videos from Youtube (NBC and BBC's newsclips) and the SilentLambs website. This is what she did...TRUE STORY; 1. She copied the links and emailed them to an Elder in our cong. and my dad who is a Congregation Overseer. 2. after that was done, we visited my parents and lead the conversation so that my father could ask me about the sites.
She saw the links and the Silent Lambs site. (note...my dad is a Congregation Overseer/used to be called Presiding Overseer) This is what her thinking is - "The organization is NOT full of perfect people and we all make mistakes. Some people view the society's protection as overbearing but they are looking out for our best interest. Even if a brother was a pedophile, that's not for everyone to know. That is between the elders and that person. They would counsel that brother in private if they felt they were getting too close to a child in the congregation. If a brother confessed to the elders they don't have to give that privileged information to the authorities because of clergy privileges. If they did then no one would go to the brothers to get right with Jehovah after they've sinned." This is coming from a mother of 3 mind you.
In the END...she and my father felt "You can't believe all of these things on the internet, that's why the Governing Body is constantly telling us to watch what we view and who we listen to because they're just people who feel they were wronged and they want to bring everone down with them. The organization is what Jehovah is using to get spread his word. The real question is DO YOU FEEL that JEHOVAH is using THIS organization? Or do you think his spirit is no longer with it?" between the two of them, THIS is what I was faced with. I only answered with "I don't mean to get you emotional, but I do as the Society said...research and keep proving my faith to myself."
I'm glad you think my marriage will still be in tact once I leave. I'd hate to have my sister (A non-JW Lawyer) represent me in court at a divorce/child-custody hearing.