"being under his headship and not standing just on her own...it shows the congregation that she is submissive to him
and not standing aside and going her own way". How asinine!!
I think some congregations make up the rules as they go along because Spanish women do not take the man's surname on marriage. When born, children are given the father's first surname and the mother's first surname. They keep those two names all their lives, whether they get married or not.