A little background for you...
My best friend (a 44 year old baptised JW with a wife & 2 preteen boys) told me a few days ago that he is gay. To me, not a big deal as I am also. BUT, he is so tormented by this with regard to his relationship with God. He says he has had relations (gay sex) and in the past, but we never talked about this.
I am not "out" to anyone close to me who is alive (I told one of my siblings prior to his death). Correction: After his admission, I did tell him about me, and he was shocked! I am not partnered. I was married as a young man and lost my wife and son in childbirth. I am not obvious nor is he. We had never talked about religion prior to this, much less, homosexuality.
We started a business together several months ago, so I see him almost every day. The business was my idea and I continue to work my "9 to 5" job. When I told him that I was going to launch this project, I asked if he knew of anyone who might be interested in working for me. Long story made short: he quit his job to come work with me and although we struggle a bit as any new business does, we are making progress.
After long and tearful talks about sexuality and religion and his current conflict, I began to search out information on the internet. While I believe in God, I do not practice any formal religion. (Raised Roman Catholic, but haven't attended mass in decades.) He has expressed that if not for his conflict and his children, he would leave the congregation. Yet I can see that it is very ingrained in him and wish I could offer some help. I can also see that this is tearing him apart emotionally and spiritually.
While I knew that he was a JW, we never discussed religion until now. I see that he is very depressed and now understand some of his conflict as I begin to research the JW society and beliefs.
Does anyone have any suggestions about how I proceed in helping him? I don't want to offend him in any way. Are there support groups within the church? He is more than a little shy about asking for help. I am not, so, PLEASE HELP! Obviously he is not ready to leave the JW's at this time.
P.S. The project is in Mexico near the US border and he lives there (Mexico) too. He only speaks a little bit of English and I am fluent in Spanish.