As I recalled earlier, my father was Rutherford's bodyguard. A group of Bethelies had a peep hole to witness the hypocrisy as Rutherford romanced a woman. My father was very prudish and very sexual menancing (I can't understand the combo). Rutherford, despite himself, had to find more than a hank of hair and pile of bones to engage in sexual activity. Normally, I would find it quite normal for a grown man to engage in sex. It is the one rule for the fools and another rule for me. Yes, he found new aspects to female anatomy, indeed.
Those aren't words of someone who believes in arbtrary sex roles. Perhaps in Bible days a lack of technology mandated a certain division of labor. What kind of women makes herself available to a man who truly despises women? He had to despise her/them. I was present as staff at Senate Hearings concerning the Equal Rights Amendment when a Bible thumper testified about the majesty of man and women could only be happy as man's slave. A very conservative Senator responded and trotted his credentials as a Bible teacher. He remarked the Bible was one thing but the real world showed women as partner's. His wife was no slave. As Dr. Phil would say "HOw is it working for you/"
I grew up with no true role models. My mother was abused severely and was forced to work outside the home. She received flak from the brothers who demanded her attendance. Not once did they ask my father why he was such a jerk that he could not support his family properly. Margaret Mead was around. Law schools had a single female lawyer sometimes. Female doctors? No way. Female Bethelites? rare with no status. My brother aspired to intellectual work travelling the globe from Bethel. I actually attended a meeting at a convention where i could type or clean. Many of these rare women were also kind of dykey. When I see the lace that Ginsburg, Sotomayor, O'Connor and Kagan wear, I smile.
My world view changed. My religion prof in college explained the difference between Son of Man (no big deal) and Son of Man (very big deal). Every prominent man in Israel was a Son of God but none the Son of Man. She remarked to a room full of women, No Daughters of God anywhere under any circumstances and drew an X . My mind snapped. I said to myself "NO daughters of God? F--- you." Oh, how I adore Mary of Martha and Mary (I am so far from being a Martha) and Mary Magdalene. Prostitute to prominent business owner who funds Jesus' ministy. An educated heiress. It is no accident she was the first witness to the Resurrection. No accident that Peter and others made fun of her. I wonder if they apologized.
My flaw is to study the scriipture to find meaning and context. The WTBTS is not in this for scholarship but for money. A gullible following is what they seek. Thank Christ I was alread out when oral sex became an issue. Do these people live in the real world even temporarily. The common law establishes both marital privilege and marital confidentiality because marriage is not a civil union. I wish I could view them the way I do Mormons or Scientologists, nut jobs. The Witnesses are still my interior life. I hate that with all my being. Compared to love, grace, salvation, the social gospel, etc. what does oral sex and a hank of hair have to do with anything. The Bible, patriachal as it is, does not demean women or dictate sexual positions within or without marriage.
How do we know Rutherford was a virgin? Well....... Was Knorr a virgin when he married when NO BETHELITES married? Why were they not thrown on the street with no funds? Why did JWs continue to converse with them? If anyone knows the actual process by which Knorr courted and received a dispensatoiin I would like to know. My parents married only a few years earlier and no one, no one spoke with them. Did she have a wedding ring My mom had to purchase her own b/c it was so pagan.