Welcome to the forum - its a good place to be. Its painful isnt it finding out we've been misled - hence losing faith in the Org completely. I came out with my faith in God intact and it remains to this day but I do understand how so many others lose it. I'm so glad to hear you've been able to reach your wife so that at least you have each other whilst you heal and move on with your lives. You dont mention the ages of your children but I hope they're young enough to move on without too much damage.
I'm sure others will recommend that you read Crisis of Conscience by Ray Franz as soon as you can - a wonderful book by a fine man, and his second one In Search of Christian Freedom is excellent too. As far losing friends is concerned, its not easy I was in for around 30 years and since I was Dsflwshpd there's only one dear friend who keeps in touch by text messages. Heartbreaking. I've also lost my 5 adult kids the same way.
In my new life these days I try to embrace everyone I meet and being back at Uni as a very mature student has helped. Be pro active in searching for areas where you can meet people is my suggestion.
I hope you find as much comfort here as I have - if your wife doesnt choose to join but wants to chat she is welcome to PM me via your account.