Just curious to hear from those that have gone through a similar situation. My dad was extremely opposed to JW's and went balistic when my mom converted. He did everything in his power to keep us from becoming witnesses, (forcing us to stay home from meetings, forcing us to go to church with him on holidays) but I think that worked against him, because we viewed it as persecution.
Here is my question though. Did your JW parent go out of their way to demonize your non-JW parent. What I mean is, when they weren't around, did your JW parent constatntly point out their bad traits, even exagerating them at times. Making them appear to be a person they were not.
My mom certainly did that. Me and my siblings grew up afraid of my dad, because my mom would constantly tell us stories of the bad things my father did. Whenever I did something to upset her, she would say, "you're just like your dad", as if it was a bad thing. Now I know that she did this because it increased the chances of us following her and becoming witnesses. It wasn't until I was about 12 that I realized that this guy wasn't so bad, but by then it was too late. The relationship with my dad was irrepairable, and I was well on my way to become a good little witness.
Even today, my parents are divorsed, but my mom will make me feel guilty for contacting my dad, who is now 70. He still doesn't know my changed view about the religion, and I can't wait to tell him. Every once in a while I pick up the phone to tell him that I understand now, why he sometimes wasn't in the best of moods in a home where everyone considered him to be the evil worldly guy. And even though I don't condone his cheating, I want to tell him it couldn't have been easy being alone every year on his birthday, Christmas, Easter etc. and never hearing the words, "Happy Father's Day", but we end up talking about the weather instead.