by BERNARD 27 Replies latest jw friends
Most people are under the impression that the watchtower
don't break up families, well people lets give them a
few examples. since I left the jehovah witnesses my mother
in law has not spoken to me in two years since i left
the watchtower. Yes, me and my wife are still together
with two beautiful kids. Why she can't speak to me ?
please more examples, who shuns you in your family ?
let's let the world see the examples of watchtower love in
the shunning way!
Gee, this is cheering me up.
Who shuns me?
Mother -- annointed so she says
Younger brother -- was my best friend
Ex-inlaws - family, ex-wife's side
Former friends -- scores and scores.
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"The truth will set you free--but first it will make you damn mad."
M. Scott Peck - "The Different Drum"
Mother & Father unless I call or write.Otherwise I'd never hear from them again!
Mother & Father inlaw
brother & sister inlaw
Aunt and uncle
Great aunt & uncle
cousins from those aunts and uncles
cousins and aunt and uncles on my husbands side
To make a long story short,ALL JW family shuns us even though we aren't DF or DA.
WT lies.
Mother - not a jw
sister - is jw
brother - inlaw - is jw
all from my ex cong.
shit happens - they loose out
Lets not forget other relatives aunts, uncles, and all those who talk about you behind your back,yet gossip is considered a bad thing.
My:
Sister--turned us in
brother in law-- witness against me at heresey trial
neice--only 3 though can't blame her
aunt--moms sis
uncle
uncle
aunt--moms sis
aunt--moms sis
aunt--moms sis
aunt--moms sis-in-law
uncle
aunt--dad's sis
grama
grama
cousin
"Injustice will continue until those who are not affected by it are as outraged as those who are."
I was not invited to my cousin's wedding in November....
For what reason?
Well, my own engagement was terminated a few months earlier. Wouldn't want to be a bad influence, would I? Maybe I would stand up and say "FUCK MARRAIGE!"
The most I have told my family is that I 'had doubts'. They know that I do not attend the meetings regularly. (I did not say that it has been 10 months and that I don't plan to return)
Well, personally I know that I am not even close to being a believer.
But I don't bite
cello the evil heartbreaker
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." Edmund Burke
too many people to name actually but to start with my father has been basically shunning me since i was a teenager even though i was still in the org. i apparently wasnt active enough and wasnt displaying a love for the truth or setting theocratic goals. i wasnt doing anything 'wrong' mind you..just not good enough.
my three sisters followed suit after i stopped going to the meetings although i wasnt df'd or anything. it just appeared that i no longer wanted to be part of the org so in their opinion is the same thing as being df'd.
my moms sister and her husband started around the same time my sisters did. everyone in the congregation started about the same time too. i was inactive and going only occasionally to meetings so in their minds i was 'wordly'.
anyway, all shunning rules are in full effect now by any and every jw who knows who know my status as i am now df'd.
sometimes it doesnt bother me at all and i am like 'f*** them i dont care what they think of me'. but other times after going day after day living in the same house with them i feel so sick of being looked down upon as not good enough to even have my presence acknowledged unless its to express a negative opinion about me or something i've done.
thinking i gotta start playin the lottery..'cant win if you dont play'. isnt that what they say? :)
flower
all of my four children:(
wendy
I just wanted to mention that I think most of us have more family outside of the JWs than in but we are also alienated from them because they were shunned or cut off by us when we became JWs.
We can rebuild or start new relationships with these family members but it takes time and is not always easy.
So this contributes to the lonelyness we feel.
It takes courage and humility to admit we were wrong and iniciate new relationships.
3 Sisters
3 Nephews
2 Nieces
3 Aunts
Countless cousins
In-laws & the like
