Thank you for your comment Snoozy. I kind of had a feeling that being in a crem, I might be able to have a little say.
As for the Jehovah police, i have wondered, if I did get up to say something the elders present would be on tenderhooks ready and waiting to snatch the mircophone and carry me off if I even dared recite a scrpiture, or direct the JW's to the door when I get up and speak as im disfellowshipped...crazy thoughts but nothing suprises me anymore with that organisation lol.
Audesapere - My suggestions for you is to not take the elder's limitations personally. Good that he is trying to be responsible and keep his job while not neglecting your families need/request. My issue with the Elder coming round to talk to my dad about his funeral service is that he didnt need to tell my dad and mum how he got into trouble with work the last time he conducted my parents close freinds funeral. That was information that they really didnt need to know about and very thoughtless of him. It was putting unecessary pressure on my parents to hold the funeral at a time of his conveniece because if they dont they would also get him into trouble. What if the Crem was not available on the days he told them to hold it on. That seems to me like another way of selfish control.
Onthewayout - I live in the UK and its not very common to hold a funeral on a Saturday, though I can understand that reasoning.
Invetigator74 - I am pleased that my thread has been able to help you too. I am sorry that your dad is unwell too, its a horrible time seeing your loved ones deteriorate. I fully expect to be shunned at my dads funeral too.
Balsam - I am sorry for the loss of your son and sending big hugs to you. After reading that Watchtower article from last year I can see that this is going to be mor about preaching/ dictating/ controlling than anything personal about my dad, I know it is going to be very hard sitting there listening to all their hipocracy and crap. That is the part I am dreading most, I figure bringing duct tape with me to silence my hurt and anger. Especially at the Elder doing the service was the one that disfellowshipped me.
I was also a silent lamb growing up in the religion, when I spoke out nothing was done and the elder who did things to me was still allowed to carry on fully as an elder, I dont think they even approached him. It has taken me till the age of 34 to finally get the courage to go to a therapist to help myself heal about this. But that is another bad experience that I had from this cult.
I too, pray to god to give me the strength to get through my dads funeral, im sure he will.
Thank you all again for your words of support, it really means so much to me.
Big hugs to all x