Vastly different beliefs here. We started out - had 5 years of a decent, but still had our moments relationship. I'm a Pagan, him a former study who would one day go back... I haad no idea what it meant. The fact taht we're married is due in part to his desire to become a publisher, before baptism and couldn't while we cohabitated. So we're married. I contemplate divorce constantly. I worry about my stepkids, and some days it feels like they're the only reasons I'm still married.