There's an old saying:
When it happens to me, it's a tragedy.
When it happens to you, get over it.
As most of here on this board only too well know just how difficult it is for someone who was never 'inside the organization' to understand even the outer fringes of the illusion was was our total perception of reality, -frenchyA woman I worked with told me about her husband. He had a boil removed near his scrotum. Anyone who's had a boiled lanced knows they tend to seep afterward, sometimes for days.
Well, he was sore, in a most tender area. And he had to wear a Kotex pad, old-fashioned belt and all. After a couple of days walking around tenderly, and also walking around like he had a roll of toilet paper between his legs, he told his wife "I swear, I'll never make fun of you women again."
Of course, the reason I know this is because she told ALL the women she worked with.....and we knowingly laughed heartily at the poor fool. He now knew.
It's kind of the same (sans humor) with xjw's - and a person who studied or knew jw's. They just don't have the same experience - and it's almost impossible to actually *know* what it feels like.
Even the poor husband with the tampax for a couple of days.....multiply that out for 40 years, 12 times a year, about 5 days a month. He just got a taste of it. But it was a true smiler.
Sorry to bring humor to this thread.......but I've remembered that poor guy - and it's been 23 years since then. Still smile.