Online-dating

I've never dated online. I don't trust it personally. I'm a physical experience sort of person. I have to see, talk, be with someone before I can 'date' them.

Mr. Flipper met his wife through eHarmony so he might be a good person to ask regarding his experience.

How can a man give up sex???

Eventually, it happens to all of us.

Terry

Terry, are you kidding me?

How can a man give up sex

Well, you can!

If you can give up smoking or drugs or alcohol that's destroying your happiness---you can give up sex.

After awhile you don't exactly get used to it so much as you gain respect for yourself.

When I became the father of 4 daughters I realized fully and profoundly the humanity of the opposite sex. I cannot objectify a woman anymore.

That's the dirty little secret about porn, by the way, it makes the person invisible to the eye.

I just can't deal with the feeling of using another person like a Kleenex and tossing them away.

Online dating reduces the "other" to a menu of your appetites.

It doesn't work that way (for me).

There is an X-factor to attraction and respect that is far more elusive than a list of likes and dislikes.

But, Attraction is the least of it, really. The respect has to be there. It is a double respect (oneself and the "other").

Then, there is the everyday (every moment) "chemistry" of being able to talk to the other person and listen.

If you don't want to bother listening and don't respect what they believe or say----at a deeper level than head-nodding, well---it just won't amount to anything.

So, I don't even bother. And believe me--it is a bothere.

awildflower

When I became the father of 4 daughters I realized fully and profoundly the humanity of the opposite sex. I cannot objectify a woman anymore.

Ahhhhhhhhh, that's sweet Terry

Online-dating

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