Great post Ghiagirl. You have been so strong while you are still young. I cant tell you how much I admire that. I stayed in way too long for family reasons and now I am ending up leaving anyway. So good for you for doing it now.
Sounds like you had an overly aggressive (they would call it zealous) body of elders in the Hall you attended. That is one of the things the Society needs to get a grip on - the free wheeling elders just doing what they want. Your case wasnt handled appropriately but it still got a good result - you are out!
As for missing your family...this baby might change things for them. Time will tell.
Welcome to the forum - some of the smartest, kindest people I have met are here, you will find friends and listening ears.