For Those Lurking, Thinkiing of Leaving, Just Leaving, How Do You....

by AllTimeJeff 12 Replies latest jw friends

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    I am agnostic. I have only taken to putting it into words for the past couple months now, but I believe I had arrived there a couple years ago.

    That said, I believe that even atheists and agnostics might benefit from finding a church. Many churches are quite liberal in doctrine, others are just generally accepting of people. The people one generally meets there are good people. They would make good friends in many cases. Small talk will soon point you toward those who share your hobbies and interests. Then the 'friend seeker' probably needs to take the bull by the horns a bit and get involved in clubs or meetups that the people you met are involved with. In other words, churches could be a good source of friendly meetings that could lead to real friendships over time.

    I am not good at that. I am generally considered outspoken, but get fairly shy in a crowd. It has been hard for me to follow my own advice here, but I do believe it could work for some seeking to expand their friendships.

    Personally, I have a very small group of friends. No one ever visits my home just to see me, unless it is family. I meet a few xjws for dinner a couple times a year. I stay in touch with many xjws, and a few who never were on facebook. Part of my problem is the rural area in which we live. But retrospectively, if I had never been a Jw that might have been the case also. Personality coupled with environment are key.


  • MargotTenenbaum

    1. Be around people. It works best if you can spend a repeated chunk of time over and over again (work, school, clubs)

    2. Be friendly, but not a needy weirdo

    3. Pick out someone cool

    4. Say "Hey, we should hang out some time" then change the subject. You will avoid being directly rejected, but let them know you're interested in being friends.

    5. Listen to what they are interested in and speak up when you have something in common.

    6. Hopefully they will ask *you* to do something.

    I've been gone for a while and had excellent success with this technique.

  • Joshnaz
    Joshnaz Just Jump. Later you will realize your not loosing anything. But gaining everything!

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