you are a good person Cordelia always remember that
Here is a tip.
I understand that circuit overseers have been given "new" guidance on how to treat active and nonactive jws in this grey no mans land that you may be occupying. Your family may not be aware and may never be made aware unless somebody tells them. Unfortunately I don't know exactly what this new guidance is but it may take the form of a work in progress.
Either you or a friend could ring the CO and see what he can do for you.
Imo you need to ask for space in which you also have the support of your JW family and at the same time not have to offer any explanations or answer any questions