What a dreadful idea my dear friend. I am certain by your pleas to get your wife away from the witnesses that you deeply love her. Keep it that way please. Don't ruin something that is already a wonderful thing. Your wife has already left , she may not realize it but she has, she may know it and is in denial or whatever. She is holding on to her last vestiges of the witnesses why I have no idea, perhaps it is like a soother to her. Or she fears for her life in the end.
Perhaps she wants to safe face, no one knows why some people do the things they do. Just let well enough alone. Can you imagine what the elders will say to you first. They will disfellowship you the second you speak to them and second of all and really the most important of all, it is like your betraying your wife.
My ex husband use to go around to other witnesses in our congregation and even my friends that were not in our cong. and tell stories about me behind my back, and what kind of stories I had no idea. I often wondered why some at the KH often looked at me in a strange way and often ignored me and I hear whispers, and then one day I recieved a telephone call from a sister in the congregation and she said to me, Terry are you aware that your husband is saying all kinds of nasty things about you, like.......... and that I thought you should know because it is wrong and it is mean and cruel what he is doing to you.
Well I thanked this sister very much. You know how I felt? Like I was betrayed by a man who claimed he loved me, but showed otherwise by his actions. He had to be the center of attention.
I am not saying that is what you want but what I am saying , you wife may look at what you do as a form of betrayal, going behind her back it not wise. I ended up divorcing my husband because of reasons such as the one I just told you. There were many more reasons. But Betryal is the biggest reason.
Please dear friend if you never listen to me ever again, trust me on this, it will not be an act of loving kindness if you tell the elders on her. Talk to her first, as someone suggest over a nice evening when you have some nice quiet time together. Thats the time.
I hope and pray all goes well for you and your family and this is true, your wife's natural love that God endowed in every women for her children is greater then her love for the WTS. she knows where her loyality is, she is a true mom. I think it won't be long until she is beside you and your sons. She is more than half way there now.
Orangefatcat.
here is a bear hug for you and the best of wishes. Please know that you will also be in my prayers.
Terry