This is something I've thought about over and over in my mind. Anyone DF or DA are viewed by active JWs as "Dead when Armageddon comes". But do they really believe this? Are they waiting for us to die?
When anyone is given the news that someone they love and care for has a terminal illness, and is going to die, the news is devastating and traumatic and brings everything to a standstill. What was normal and run of the mill yesterday is today filled with disbelief, grief, stress, anger and confusion. They know that the person they love is going to die, and it becomes a waiting game, albeit a very difficult one.
I know that these same emotions can be felt by those JWS who have lost ones to disfellowshipping and disassociation, because, to them, they are experiencing a loss. BUT,....if they truly believe we are going to die, then do they have a sense of urgency about the short time we have left?
In real cases where someone's life will end abruptly due to illness, and the time left is limited......isn't it true that any of us in that situation would make the most of the time left with our loved ones? Would there not be an even more acute sense of how precious our family is to us and us to them? Would we not all want to make the remaining time as meaningful as possible and finish off on a high note? Time together and love and support would be a priority.
This is why I'm asking if the JWS actually believe this............because they DO THE OPPOSITE !
They do their best to have nothing to do with their DF / DA relatives. Some will never see or speak to their family members again and will perhaps even shun them till the day they die. How awful that must be. Sometimes the only comfort some parents of dying children can have, is knowing that they could make their children's last weeks and months as meaningful as possible.
The 'loyal' JWs are living their lives like they don't notice us. It's like we are ghosts long before we're gone.
So are these parents / friends of these "dying" children not bothered or concerned about being there for them and to love them in the time they have left? I mean, they know it's not long to go now.
THIS IS WHAT ONE TERMINALLY ILL MAN WROTE:
I have family, who though they know I have secondary cancer & need support, don't even ring me. Eventually you stop asking. I was an only child & was shy with others also, I don't want to have to rely on total strangers when I have cousins that were close like sisters when I was young. If each of them came to visit they could take it in turns of every five weeks. Is that too much?? I don't fight or drink or act unpleasently & it really hurts my heart to feel so unloved. people suggest I join a cancer support group but I tried & it made me feel worse to hear how most have wonderfull caring family & friends.
HOW WOULD THE WITNESSES REACT TO THIS MAN'S PLIGHT ?