A family man choosing to turn down a job that will be overly demanding is not a tragedy. His family already has to compete with the Borg and a normal job. He can change his mind when he sees TTATT if he wants a promotion.
The young woman choosing to pioneer when she is intelligent and young seems more of a tragedy. She is never going to have the choice to make between a demanding JOB and family, she will be forsaking both family and job to serve the WTBTS. She likely rejected the idea of college as soon as she knew it was an option-when she was about 8 or 9. She will never get that promotion even offered to her, not even a decent job.