A few months ago I reconnected with an ex elder from my old congregation who suddenly vanished with his whole family. He told me why I was never going to be an elder in their congregation: another elder said I needed to be closely watched since sisters seem to like me a little too much...hey I am no babe magnet, but I can't help it when the CO's wife I grew up with hugs and kisses me when they visited our congregation. I was married to the first girl I officially dated, we were chaste until our wedding night and I never cheated on her during our 40 plus years of marriage...this elder's opinion was hindered my progress in the congregation and I finally gave up on wanting to be an elder. When after decades of being a MS I finally was given the responsabilities of an elders as the last step before being appointed, I woke up and left the cult. Who knows what might have happened if this elder hadn't spoken his innuendos.