..or any online dating website. Has anyone ever tried it? My friends want me to try being that I have horrible luck with men. I've never tried any of these websites but I'm kinda thinking eh why not. However, Im a little apprehensive since I feel like its a bit taboo. Not sure why...
Why not? Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones for whom it works. You'll never know if you never try.
Unless you want to get Patterson's OK first...
My step daughter was on a couple of them. I am pretty sure e harmony was one. She dated several that were just dinner, and no thanks. One was a pilot, that flew Dr.s to small towns for the day. My husband met him, and really liked him. She Set limits of where the men should live, in a 50 mile radius, how much $ they make /year, etc. Guy from Florida wanted to come visit, She said no. He said, just for dinner, and you can meet me there. He would fly in, just for her, and leave.
She did. They keep talking, phone, email etc... He wants to see her again. She is still leery. Yes he really lived in Florida, and willing to fly to Ok..
city, on last minute flight. Had to have cost a bundle, it was only about 5 months ago. They went to eat and movie. He still doesn't know where she lives, etc...
A week later, he asks her, if her and her son, age 11, and slightly autistic, to come out and visit Florida, to his house. He will arrange tickets, as soon as she says the word. She got off work the next week. They went out there, for a week, said she had a great time. She met his family, his employees, they said he was a great boss. Hmmmmm
He came to visit Ok!a. again, and this time, she told him where she lived. He came to her house. This is after 2 months. Seeing him, only 2 or 3 times in Okc and a week in Florida.
It worked for me! I've sent you a pm about it. I hear that RSVP is good. I'm not sure if Yahoo still has the personal dating site but if they do then I'd suggest checking that out as well, it was the site that I used.
He asks her to move to Florida. She thought about it, and talked to her dad. My husband. He told her no. you don't know this guy. She has a masters degree, age 38, and is very intelligent. But she wants to go to nursing school, so she can go into administration for hospitals.
The man, said he would help her get in, and pay for nursing school. Yeah right. I said. I told her to check his background, Check property deeds, check out his business. She is a widow, and she had $75,000 when he passed away, 2 years ago, what about the money from selling her house. She said it would go into the bank. I told her about sleazy men, who prey on women like this, and marry girls like this. Plus, she is getting SS on her and her son.
Well, she checked him out all right!!! She found out several things. He did own his own company, and it is doing very well. He does not have a criminal record. He owns his home He is 58 years old. He has been divorced for many years, his grown children seem to really like her. His grandchildren are babies. His mother said, he is very very happy, and he even talked about her, before he answered her ad.
Well, she packed up her stuff, He flew to OKC, to oversee the moving van he hired, and drove to Florida with her, in her car. They have already enrolled her son in a private school, He paid for the whole year up front.
He called my husband and told him, that he would take care of her, and he wanted to meet her father, and pay for the plane ticket to come visit. Just say when he can come to visit.
That was last month. Where are they NOW?????
They just got back from Aruba, and are on a road trip, up the east coast, today, they are in Maryland, looking around.
When I asked her earlier about the money from her house etc, I said that after you get married, your assets are mingled. Her response, was.. Who said anything about getting married. I can read alot into that statement, but I didn't ask. I may at Christmas.
I say, get online, what are you wasting time, reading all of this for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do you want a relationship for romance or just a friendship. I would think about those things, as I know people who have used those websites from everything to one night stands (which both parties were okay with) to marriage type relationships. Personally, I would be careful to not go in with much of a high hopes. Most of what you here, is marketed editing to making you feel it is more then it is.
I know several people who have had dating success with E-Harmony. Some married others figured out they weren't quite ready for marriage but the dating and eventual relationships were pleasant. ......better way to get your feet wet then bar hopping.
Talk to Mr Flipper about this, he met his wife on EHarmony, and they have a wonderful relationship.
From personal experience - it works.
But!!!!! You may have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince - or Princess!
I had signed up with various different match-sites... match-dot-com, yahoopersonals, americansingles, etc. I could only afford a month at a time, and so within that 30 days, would try to meet as many 'right' ones as possible.
Just to let you know... there are very few that met my qualifications. But - that's probably a good thing.
Also, keep in mind - there are going to be those that are perpetually on there. You will see them month after month. Why? Because they do not exist. They may have a photo - but they are put on the site to make it look like there are many many people signed up with the service.
I found my one-and-only on match-dot-com. My subscription (and hers) was about to expire at the end of the month. I figured that if I didn't find anyone that time, I would just wait a bit... perhaps another 6 months... and try again.
Who I met is pretty... funny... and we have a lot in common. We got married a couple of years after we met. (Vegas is good for getting married.)
I say - go for it. But do so cautiously. If you have to meet them in person - do so at a coffee shop - not a bar. Try to get to know them and what they are like. Well... you know all of that. Just be careful.