For the last time, I'm not dropping out. I should have made that clear at the beginning of this thread. The announcement has not been made yet, since the CO won't arrive until Tuesday. I'm not sure whether this announcement will be made to the congregation or privately amongst the body of elders. Probably, they'll have to make a public announcement. I'm sure that nobody in the congregation knows about the impending announcement.
There's turmoil in my immediate future.
by CunningMan 68 Replies latest members private
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changeling
Let me get on the "whatever you do, don't drop out!" badwagon. You've come this far, don't throw it all away.
changeling :)
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CunningMan
Also, I have a sibling who is taking classes too. She's a dedicated Witness and will probably comply with their demands.
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milligal
Cunningman- I speak as a witness raised not to attend college. Now I have left and my husband and I both are working toward our degrees with three children and bills. Don;t give in-no matter what! You will never regret your decision to educate yourself and be a contributing part of society. Remember that no matter what stand your father takes, no matter what confrontation may or may not await you, you really only have one responsible choice- and that's choosing what is important to you.
Trust me, giving in now, means pain and agony later (think law school with two pre-k children getting up all hours of the night, missing days because of the flu etc. etc.). Face the music, get your education.
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CunningMan
What really pisses me off about this policy is that it assumes that parents are solely responsible for the choices their kids make. My parents are not the ones who pushed me towards college and I'm the one who's going to make those payments, so what makes them think they should have a say in what I do? That was my choice and at age twenty-four, it's my decision to make.
This shows the Governing Body's condescending attitude towards twenty-somethings. Apparently, they're just older adolescents and college is a big high school, with more peer pressure. As someone who's been on campus for several years, this is obviously a load of crap. If anything, college is a very lonely experience and no one pressures anyone to do anything. As for the supposed Sodom and Gomorrah atmosphere, you're only going to find trouble if you're looking for it. It's no different than any other workplace. Until the Governing Body can get over it's fear of young people, they should get used to seeing twenty-somethings flipping them them the bird as they walk out.
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sammielee24
Just wouldn´t believe it yet unless a better source is quoted.
The MS that was on the conference call informed us that this is a valid change. They'll be ousting everyone as per direction. I don't think leniency will be allowed much longer - too many tattletales out there willing to turn one person in if they themselves are affected. sammieswife.
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sammielee24
so what makes them think they should have a say in what I do? That was my choice and at age twenty-four, it's my decision to make.
Because if you go to college, you will learn. If you learn you will ask to be taught more. If you are taught more you will crave even more knowledge and then wham!...the WTS is nothing more than a pile of dust to you. They are scared of letting the flock become too smart - and they probably see that as part of the reason for the dwindling cash reserves and attendance. Of course you will stay in - you should - if the parents have a basement live in it or else write your parents out a check each week for room and board - become a lodger, a paying guest, separate from your father. sammieswife.
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CunningMan
sammielee24,
I think you're missing the point of what I was saying. There is this unwritten rule that if you're the adult child of an elder, you are their sole responsibility and you must obey them in every way until you move out of the house. Unlucky for me, I can't afford to move out any time soon, so I'm considered a helpless child in the eyes of the organization.
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Snoozy
Why can't you get a job? Or do you prefer the easy life of being supported and taken care of ?
Everything comes with a price.There are plenty of jobs out there you just have to be willing to accept what you can get.If you want to keep on hanging on their coat tails..it's your choice.
A menial job will even pay for a sleeping room and food and bus fare....
I feel the witnesses are really pushing it to enforce such a stupid rule. They are only hurting themselves by not allowing their followers to get an education. Pretty soon it will be run by Hign school dropouts.
Getting more and more cult like everyday.
Snoozy...
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nameless_one
Welcome, CunningMan. If I'm understanding this correctly, your parents aren't paying for your university education in any way, but you are afraid that thanks to this new "directive" they're going to tell you to either quit school or get out of the house, and you're not in a spot where you can manage your own housing right now. Is that the bottom line?
First, good on you for being adamant that you will NOT drop out. As others have suggested, you would be wise to use the summer months (starting tomorrow) to keep looking for a job, any kind of job, that will allow you to save up some money. And looking for potential room-mate situations as well. You mentioned that you're financing your education through loans and grants. Is there any financial aid that could help you with housing on campus, if it comes to that? Are there job opportunities on campus?
Another thought, OK this is borderline dishonest but worth considering: If your parents do insist that you either drop out or move out, and you can't find independent living arrangements, would it be possible for you to continue to attend your classes without their knowledge? Does your school offer any sort of online options for portions of the classwork? Maybe you could talk to a guidance counselor at your school, explain your situation, and perhaps find out about other options that way?
I feel for you and truly hope you will be able to find a way to make this work out. As others have said, don't panic yet, and "stall" with your parents as much as you can if they do drop the boom on you. You seem to know how valuable an education is and how important it is for your future to find a way to stay in and graduate. I hope this works out for you. Please don't give up.